Tender, Loving, Care

Got this phrase from a Hong Kong movie titled "L for Loves, L for Lies" starred by Stephy Tang and Alex Fung. Quite a nice movie about relationship for passing time should you have 2hrs with nothing to do.

"Liking a person doesn't mean that we can be together in a relationship. We don't see the flaws of each other until we get into a relationship. And being in a relationship together, it's important that both can accept each other's flaws without expecting either party to change."

Any thought provoked? Well, although in the movie, it was the girl telling the back-up boyfriend that "like" doesn't mean that they are ideal for relationship for they haven't cared much about each others flaws given that the relationship is not real.

For me, there was a sudden thought provoked. It brings back some memories of those potential relationship that stops just at friendship. Hmm... for once, sounds like i shouldn't regret about not bringing those relationship into the next level. Many friends have told me that i should have give it a try, test out first. Otherwise you won't know for sure. Besides, why waste an opportunity that was served on a plate right infront.

I guess the reason is simple. I have high respects for others and myself. Humans are emotional beings, we have feelings and felt greatly towards emotions that touch us, moved us, such as love. Why should we start a relationship with someone just because the opportunity arises. If lots of people start a relationship just opportunity arises, then lots of hearts would break, especially for those irresponsible being that applies "try first, worry later" theory.

Heart and feelings are fragile, that's why TLC (Tender, Loving, Care). Appreciate others, respect others and above all, help others. Don't take opportunity on others in relationship because opportunity arises.

A simple comparison based on my perception,

Like - mostly related to tangibles (looks, appearance, clothing, body-shape, lots of cash, big house)

Love - mostly intangible (how a person makes you feel, personality of a person)

Given that "like" are mostly tangible, it is high-risk should you go into a relationship for this reason. This person looks good today, but if the looks is no longer there. Humans age, accidents happens. Body-shape, would you still like when a "pear shape" turns to "ball shape" after giving birth. Big house, lots of cash. Would the like remains should an about turn due to wrong investments and lost everything?

Wherelse, "love" are intangible aspects. It doesn't change over night. It evolves through things that happens to us, and our environment. Eventhough it evolves, the traits remains. You'll feel the same way towards a person / thing for a long long time.

So there is actually a thin fine line between "like" and "love". Don't confused with them and mess up others' life. Treat others with the respect that you expect to receive in return from others. Love them for who they are and not what they are.

Always remember, "Tender, Loving, Care".