Upbringing is very important in every childhood. It is this process that moulds what they might grow up into. No, i'm not talking about success career or education. But rather success in living a meaningful life, a chosen path of their own rather than being chosen for them.
If one were to look and do a slight observation between the western upbringing culture and oriental upbringing culture, one could easily distinguished how it influenced one's future life. Some may be lucky enough, to travel abroad and see it with their own eyes, but for those who ain't that lucky, like me, we ought to learn from what we get of the tv screen and books off the shelves. This are great opportunities which are abundance should be take note of it.
In the oriental culture, a child was taught about filial-piety, high moral values. To some extent, their future life was chosen for them. Parents placed high hopes on them. Hope that would one day take over the family business. Hope that they would emulate certain cousins or next door kids to become a doctor, engineer, architects, lawyer and many other white collar professions. Anything short, they life would be filled with destructive criticism. In the course of ensuring such successes, the child are routinely exposed to undue pressure and high expectations. Children today are rob of their childhood, while some doesn't even know what it's like to be a child. Kids today, attend school, tuitions, music classes, sports lessons and yet are expected to perform and excel in everything, just like how adults are expected to perform in their career. Here's a reminder, we chosed to be in the job that we're in today. Even if it's shit, we chosed it on our own. But for the kids, they didn't chosed to be under such pressure. It was chosen for them. Parents are moulding their kids to be something that they wanted themselves to be. In short, their kids to live their dreams which they didn't manage to fulfil due to some circumstances. But then, what about the dreams of these children? What is wrong if their chosen path happens to be arts, stage play, filming? It ain't that bad, these careers infact are paying decent monies. In the process of moulding the child, they are indirectly exposes for various stress, frustrations, anger and aggression from the parents. Thus an unhappy childhood filled with burden and sad memories.
On the other hand, the western culture encourages one to be independent. The parents provides the needs, the child have to chase the wants on their own for those are their dreams. Parents provide love, and play the role of a fatherly figure to guide them on the ups and downs of life, not a dictatorship parenthood. As such, a happy child that doesn't grew up surrounded by fears of failures or fears of unable to life up to expectation tends to be more confident in live and decision making. Even if they failed, they live surround by constructive criticism which would help them to stay positive and try till they succeeded.
What the oriental parents need to do is to learn and boost the talents and gifts of their child, rather than hope to mould them into something they are not. A great football can't mould his son into another great football if he doesn't possess the skills and talent. But he may have good taste and talents in composing music. And that doesn't make him useless and thus the parents shouldn't think less of the kid and leave them with useless remarks. Learn to look for the positive side or everything rather than the oppose.
So if you have a child in future, do not mould them to chase you dreams, but rather mould them to chase their dreams. In return, your kids would appreciate your guidance and yet remain filial and comes homes for dinners and holidays even though they are busy and successful or even a somebody. If you mould them to chase you dreams, chances are they would remain filial, but it is because of out duty rather than out of love. I'm sure you who want something than comes from the light heart rather than heavy heart that fills with burden and resposibility.
Ouch... sorry to say this, no wonder old folks homes and elderly care home are businesses are mushrooming and flourishing in Asia. The kids have successfully live their parents dream, white collar job, big bungalow, etc. But yet life is still unfulfilled. And since they now have the money, why not send the elderly parents to a home care so that they can start chasing their own dreams despite it's been shelve for years!
It's never too late to chase one's dream regardless of age. Age is just a numerical number. One's need to fulfil their dreams so that they can rest peacefully knowing they have achieve what they themselves wanted, and not what others wanted from them.
If one were to look and do a slight observation between the western upbringing culture and oriental upbringing culture, one could easily distinguished how it influenced one's future life. Some may be lucky enough, to travel abroad and see it with their own eyes, but for those who ain't that lucky, like me, we ought to learn from what we get of the tv screen and books off the shelves. This are great opportunities which are abundance should be take note of it.
In the oriental culture, a child was taught about filial-piety, high moral values. To some extent, their future life was chosen for them. Parents placed high hopes on them. Hope that would one day take over the family business. Hope that they would emulate certain cousins or next door kids to become a doctor, engineer, architects, lawyer and many other white collar professions. Anything short, they life would be filled with destructive criticism. In the course of ensuring such successes, the child are routinely exposed to undue pressure and high expectations. Children today are rob of their childhood, while some doesn't even know what it's like to be a child. Kids today, attend school, tuitions, music classes, sports lessons and yet are expected to perform and excel in everything, just like how adults are expected to perform in their career. Here's a reminder, we chosed to be in the job that we're in today. Even if it's shit, we chosed it on our own. But for the kids, they didn't chosed to be under such pressure. It was chosen for them. Parents are moulding their kids to be something that they wanted themselves to be. In short, their kids to live their dreams which they didn't manage to fulfil due to some circumstances. But then, what about the dreams of these children? What is wrong if their chosen path happens to be arts, stage play, filming? It ain't that bad, these careers infact are paying decent monies. In the process of moulding the child, they are indirectly exposes for various stress, frustrations, anger and aggression from the parents. Thus an unhappy childhood filled with burden and sad memories.
On the other hand, the western culture encourages one to be independent. The parents provides the needs, the child have to chase the wants on their own for those are their dreams. Parents provide love, and play the role of a fatherly figure to guide them on the ups and downs of life, not a dictatorship parenthood. As such, a happy child that doesn't grew up surrounded by fears of failures or fears of unable to life up to expectation tends to be more confident in live and decision making. Even if they failed, they live surround by constructive criticism which would help them to stay positive and try till they succeeded.
What the oriental parents need to do is to learn and boost the talents and gifts of their child, rather than hope to mould them into something they are not. A great football can't mould his son into another great football if he doesn't possess the skills and talent. But he may have good taste and talents in composing music. And that doesn't make him useless and thus the parents shouldn't think less of the kid and leave them with useless remarks. Learn to look for the positive side or everything rather than the oppose.
So if you have a child in future, do not mould them to chase you dreams, but rather mould them to chase their dreams. In return, your kids would appreciate your guidance and yet remain filial and comes homes for dinners and holidays even though they are busy and successful or even a somebody. If you mould them to chase you dreams, chances are they would remain filial, but it is because of out duty rather than out of love. I'm sure you who want something than comes from the light heart rather than heavy heart that fills with burden and resposibility.
Ouch... sorry to say this, no wonder old folks homes and elderly care home are businesses are mushrooming and flourishing in Asia. The kids have successfully live their parents dream, white collar job, big bungalow, etc. But yet life is still unfulfilled. And since they now have the money, why not send the elderly parents to a home care so that they can start chasing their own dreams despite it's been shelve for years!
It's never too late to chase one's dream regardless of age. Age is just a numerical number. One's need to fulfil their dreams so that they can rest peacefully knowing they have achieve what they themselves wanted, and not what others wanted from them.
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